Category: Un-Tied


  • Sometimes Prayer Changes the Person Walking Through It

    It was about a year ago this month that I realized things were not going the way I had anticipated in my role as President of the Wake Forest Area Chamber. The toxic staff behavior, coupled with a completely dysfunctional board, had me in a place emotionally where I had not been in a long,…

  • Don’t Wait Until Your Final Number Is Called

    It was just a few weeks ago that I wrote a blog post about how “weight is just a number.” And in fact, there are many numbers that matter when it comes to tracking our overall health. Over the last few months, there has been an additional reason why I needed to schedule several visits…

  • Health and Wellness by the Numbers

    When it comes to discussions around weight, health, and wellness, you often hear people say: “Weight is just a number.” And that is very true. There are countless examples of people who weigh a certain amount and have a BMI that classifies them as overweight or even obese. Yet, when you look at them, you…

  • Some Days the Words Don’t Come

    As I sit here during this first full week of July 2026, I am shocked that it is already the middle of the year and five months into starting my own business. And I am absolutely brain-fried. I can’t, for the life of me, think of something creative to write. Since starting Tying It Together,…

  • Starting a Business Is Humbling

    Ever since I have been in the association business, I have had a corporate credit card and have been responsible for budget items, both small and large. I have always prided myself on the fact that I treat an organization’s money as if it were my own. And if you know me well, you know…

  • Deferred Maintenance Is Not Just an Organizational Problem

    It’s hard to believe that at nearly 55 years old, I am in the best shape of my life. Just making that statement seems strange. But it didn’t happen by accident. It started when I lost a lot of weight between 2017 and 2018. You can read about that here. But losing weight was only…

  • Apparently My Lunch Was a Leadership Strategy

    Several years ago, one of my staff members asked me a very odd question. She said, “Do you eat the same meal for breakfast and lunch every day?” As I thought about the question, I became a little self-conscious because I knew the answer immediately. I thought to myself, Gosh, I am really boring and…

  • Changing my Latitude Changed my Attitude

    This year, I will make my fourth annual pilgrimage to Key West. What is it that’s so special about this place? It’s not the white sandy beaches of Florida’s Gulf Coast or the clear blue-green waters of the Caribbean. No, Key West is something unique. My very first trip to the Keys was to celebrate…

  • When a Total Loss Becomes a Fresh Start

    “A car is not just a machine; it is a story. It is a collection of memories, a witness to our lives, and a reflection of our souls.” — Enzo Ferrari Spring in North Carolina always produces beautiful flowering plants and trees. However, with that beauty comes the persistence of that crazy yellow substance that…

  • The Ferris Bueller Formula for Staying Positive

    If you’ve ever worked in an office, you know the feeling of coming in on a Monday exhausted from the weekend. You want to sit down, fire up your computer, and disappear into your work until it’s time to go home. But there’s always that one person in the office who is always in a…