Category: Un-Tied


  • Some Days the Words Don’t Come

    As I sit here during this first full week of July 2026, I am shocked that it is already the middle of the year and five months into starting my own business. And I am absolutely brain-fried. I can’t, for the life of me, think of something creative to write. Since starting Tying It Together,…

  • Starting a Business Is Humbling

    Ever since I have been in the association business, I have had a corporate credit card and have been responsible for budget items, both small and large. I have always prided myself on the fact that I treat an organization’s money as if it were my own. And if you know me well, you know…

  • Deferred Maintenance Is Not Just an Organizational Problem

    It’s hard to believe that at nearly 55 years old, I am in the best shape of my life. Just making that statement seems strange. But it didn’t happen by accident. It started when I lost a lot of weight between 2017 and 2018. You can read about that here. But losing weight was only…

  • Apparently My Lunch Was a Leadership Strategy

    Several years ago, one of my staff members asked me a very odd question. She said, “Do you eat the same meal for breakfast and lunch every day?” As I thought about the question, I became a little self-conscious because I knew the answer immediately. I thought to myself, Gosh, I am really boring and…

  • Changing my Latitude Changed my Attitude

    This year, I will make my fourth annual pilgrimage to Key West. What is it that’s so special about this place? It’s not the white sandy beaches of Florida’s Gulf Coast or the clear blue-green waters of the Caribbean. No, Key West is something unique. My very first trip to the Keys was to celebrate…

  • When a Total Loss Becomes a Fresh Start

    “A car is not just a machine; it is a story. It is a collection of memories, a witness to our lives, and a reflection of our souls.” — Enzo Ferrari Spring in North Carolina always produces beautiful flowering plants and trees. However, with that beauty comes the persistence of that crazy yellow substance that…

  • The Ferris Bueller Formula for Staying Positive

    If you’ve ever worked in an office, you know the feeling of coming in on a Monday exhausted from the weekend. You want to sit down, fire up your computer, and disappear into your work until it’s time to go home. But there’s always that one person in the office who is always in a…

  • I Paid $60 for Parking and Got Something Better in Return

    How many times do you walk past people and never even acknowledge them? Or worse, make a rude gesture because they cut in front of you in the Starbucks line or stepped into the elevator before letting others get out? And why would you even bother acknowledging anyone anyway? Most of the time, people have…

  • Leave No Man Behind: Overcoming Loneliness in Mid-life

    If you have known me for longer than eight years, you’ve heard or seen me talk or post about F3. My wife thinks I belongs to a cult. Apparently so do all of the other wives of other F3 guys across the country. I mean, we do get up at 5A, rain or shine, hot…

  • Faith Without Action Is Dead -And It Changed My Life

    For many, including myself, this week is very special as it marks holy weeks for both Christians and Jews. I am a Christian, and today is Maundy Thursday. “Maundy” comes from Latin and means “a new commandment I give to you.” As part of my Thursday blog posts, I’ve dedicated this time to share more…