Category: Un-Tied


  • Deferred Maintenance Is Not Just an Organizational Problem

    It’s hard to believe that at nearly 55 years old, I am in the best shape of my life. Just making that statement seems strange. But it didn’t happen by accident. It started when I lost a lot of weight between 2017 and 2018. You can read about that here. But losing weight was only…

  • Apparently My Lunch Was a Leadership Strategy

    Several years ago, one of my staff members asked me a very odd question. She said, “Do you eat the same meal for breakfast and lunch every day?” As I thought about the question, I became a little self-conscious because I knew the answer immediately. I thought to myself, Gosh, I am really boring and…

  • Changing my Latitude Changed my Attitude

    This year, I will make my fourth annual pilgrimage to Key West. What is it that’s so special about this place? It’s not the white sandy beaches of Florida’s Gulf Coast or the clear blue-green waters of the Caribbean. No, Key West is something unique. My very first trip to the Keys was to celebrate…

  • When a Total Loss Becomes a Fresh Start

    “A car is not just a machine; it is a story. It is a collection of memories, a witness to our lives, and a reflection of our souls.” — Enzo Ferrari Spring in North Carolina always produces beautiful flowering plants and trees. However, with that beauty comes the persistence of that crazy yellow substance that…

  • The Ferris Bueller Formula for Staying Positive

    If you’ve ever worked in an office, you know the feeling of coming in on a Monday exhausted from the weekend. You want to sit down, fire up your computer, and disappear into your work until it’s time to go home. But there’s always that one person in the office who is always in a…

  • I Paid $60 for Parking and Got Something Better in Return

    How many times do you walk past people and never even acknowledge them? Or worse, make a rude gesture because they cut in front of you in the Starbucks line or stepped into the elevator before letting others get out? And why would you even bother acknowledging anyone anyway? Most of the time, people have…

  • Leave No Man Behind: Overcoming Loneliness in Mid-life

    If you have known me for longer than eight years, you’ve heard or seen me talk or post about F3. My wife thinks I belongs to a cult. Apparently so do all of the other wives of other F3 guys across the country. I mean, we do get up at 5A, rain or shine, hot…

  • Faith Without Action Is Dead -And It Changed My Life

    For many, including myself, this week is very special as it marks holy weeks for both Christians and Jews. I am a Christian, and today is Maundy Thursday. “Maundy” comes from Latin and means “a new commandment I give to you.” As part of my Thursday blog posts, I’ve dedicated this time to share more…

  • In a World of Neckties, Why Knot Be Different?

    The Association Executives of North Carolina (AENC) hosted a Legislative Reception every two years to kick off the long session of the NC General Assembly. And this wasn’t your run-of-the-mill event. The reception brought out the who’s who of North Carolina’s political scene. It was a chance to connect with those recently elected or re-elected.…

  • A Realistic Weight-Loss Story: Progress, Setbacks and Staying Healthy

    The guy who asked, “Why?Are you being chased?” If you’ve known me for less than 10 years, you probably wouldn’t guess that I used to be the guy who, when someone said they were going to run a 5K, would respond with, “Why? Is someone chasing you?” But in 2016, and every year before that,…